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Rohit Bassi

Jan 30, 2020

SIX QUALITIES OF EXECUTIVE PRESENCE


Executive presence is difficult to quantify, but impossible to miss once you spot it. A hallmark of successful people, the characteristics which make up executive presence not only enable people to rise above adversity, innovate, create and succeed, but also to be an inspiration to others.

No matter what you wish to achieve, acquiring executive presence is going to make the job easier! Although each person’s executive presence varies in presentation and expression, there are certain qualities which are common to almost all individuals that possess this way of being.

If you feel that your life and that of those around you would be enriched through the acquisition of executive presence, take a look at the following traits which are six key parts/qualities of the executive presence persona.

 

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1. Neuroscience

Broadly the study of neural pathways and the anatomy of the nervous system, neuroscience also incorporates a large body of wisdom relating to psychological factors such as perception, memory, thought, habits, responses, problem-solving and much more. By studying the research that exists about neuroscience, particularly how it translates into action, it’s possible to find and adopt more productive, positive ways of working. Many people with executive presence utilise neuroscience in order to better achieve their chosen objectives.

2. Critical Thinking

Critical thinkers have the ability to get to the heart of an issue, then find a constructive way to solve whatever the key problem might be. All too often, subjectivity, personal agendas and pre-conceived ideas can act as unproductive filters between us and the matter in hand. Critical thinking requires that we set aside our own, personal lenses and view things in an objective, logical way in order to find the most suitable forward path. Those with executive presence focus on getting the job done, working cooperatively with others towards shared goals and a positive journey together.

3. Creativity and Innovation

Creativity and innovation are important qualities for forward progression, particularly when they are combined with the persistence necessary to move ideas and dreams into reality. Anyone possessing executive presence usually demonstrates a degree of innovation – an ability to look at a product or process and recognise how it could be made better, then set about achieving that aim. Creativity can also form a useful part of problem-solving. How often has a completely off-the-wall solution resulted in a powerful change for good? Out-of-the-box thinkers, innovators, creators and revolutionaries, those with executive presence dare to do things differently!

4. Listening

Almost invariably, to achieve anything successfully, collaboration with other people is needed, which means that learning not only to listen, but also to hear, is vital. Listening is about more than just understanding words: taking account of people’s perceptions, body language and viewpoint is vital in order to appreciate the full sentiments of what they’re saying. Listening productively and sensitively is perhaps one of the most important tools an individual with executive presence can possess.

5. Emotional Intelligence

Emotional integrity, empathy and control are a crucial aspect of any executive presence. Rather than hiding behind a “front”, emotionally intelligent people are open about their emotions, communicating excitement, joy and enthusiasm as well as a healthy concern should adverse events arise. Tending towards optimism and looking for the opportunities, emotionally intelligent people have great empathy for others, striving to make their interactions as mutually satisfying and positive as possible. With emotional intelligence, individuals are able to experience life authentically, expressing feelings from the heart in a manner which is both empowering and inspiring.

6. Presentation/ Public Speaking/ Communication

Communication is at the heart of good relations with other people, which are what’s needed if you’re going to get where you need to go. Whether you’re making a presentation, chairing a meeting or simply having a conversation that matters with a colleague, partner, customer or supplier, clear, honest communication is a key part of displaying your executive presence. Successful communication has the power to transform the lived experience at every level, enabling closer, more meaningful relationships with everybody we come into contact with.

By making a conscious effort to embed these six qualities of executive presence into the way you think, speak and act, it’s possible to begin to develop the executive presence that others will recognise and respond positively to.

As a TEDx and Global Professional Speaker with decades of experience, I can help you to focus upon the most important leadership attributes, and inspire you to develop your own unique formula for success mastery. Connect with me or book me to be inspired by developing an executive presence that leads to your own unique formula of success mastery, www.roitalks.com – roi@roitalks.com.

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Rohit Bassi

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Jan 30, 2020

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Jan 23, 2020

“HELP ME…HELP YOU” JERRY MAGUIRE


“Help me…help you” is a powerful scene from the popular movie Jerry Maguire.

Yes, initially it comes across as a sign of desperation but it turns out to be touching as it has a much deeper meaning. Slick sports agent Jerry Maguire (Tom Cruise), implores his one and only client, the narcissistic Rod Tidwell (Cuba Gooding Jr.), to help him understand how he can help Tidwell.

On the outset the scene comes across as frustrated Jerry pleading with Rod, to allow him to do what he needs to do in order to help him get the contract he’s after. Although by the end of the scene as Jerry walks away you realise this is the most powerful, hard-hitting and profound scene in the whole movie.

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In its deeper meaning, Jerry is actually saying to Rod:

  • Help me to help you thus we help us.
  • Let us both work together as a team to our peak performance with what we have. Thus tap into our authentic feel-good factor and with that knowledge, we are performing like legends, like leaders, like superstars.
  • Yes, our ego comes in our way thus we are too proud to ask for help. Our foolishness, sabotaging beliefs, values or coming across to be seen as weak stops us to ask for that helping hand.
  • Instead, our strength only increases when we work together as a team and help each other out.
  • We can be great at many things and we all have weaknesses. And without a helping hand, we will not strive and thrive.
  • To conclude nobody is perfect. So, how can I best help you?

Like Jerry Maguire, I am asking you “How can I best help you?” or in other words “Help me…help you”. 

Let us take another movie, the classic ‘On the Waterfront,’. The character of Marlon Brando says “You don’t understand! I coulda had class. I could have been a contender. I could have been somebody, instead of a bum, which is what I am.” because he had failed to become a successful boxer.

On the surface the movie is about an ex-prize fighter turned longshoreman struggles to stand up to his corrupt union bosses. On a deeper level, it is about something entirely different. In simple words that scene was the essence of the whole movie. It simply meant, “I am not living the life I expected”.

Listening to a wise person through social media may motivate us for a while but it does not last. Talks on mindfulness, goal setting, purpose, finding your why all sound great and many will apply these strategies. Truth be told, most will fail because there is a much deeper issue happening within. On the surface, you will say it relates to things such as wealth, health, relationships, career or business.

Make yourself aware of the deeper issue within. Admit that is the issue. Be truthful. That is a great step in raising your executive presence. What I know is people and organisations are facing three painful issues:

  • The fast pace of technology evolution leading to disruption thus loss of business, employment, the breakup of relationships (families) and health problems
  • World Economic Forum reports that there is a lack of three essential skills for ongoing success. These are intelligence, communication and emotional wisdom.
  • Getting much tougher to gain trust, compassion and ROI
    The solution to this involves many components and one of the critical component being “Executive Presence” or as some ancient cultures call it JIGRA. You know, you love success. Success happens when you influence with trust, and compassion, this is what “Executive Presence” does for you.

Clients say I offer trust, compassion and ROI. As a Best-Selling Author®, TEDx and Global Professional Speaker with 25+ years of experience, I have inspired a countless number of people to success.

Looking forward to hearing from you. “Help me…help you”.

 

As a TEDx and Global Professional Speaker with decades of experience, I can help you to focus upon the most important leadership attributes, and inspire you to develop your own unique formula for success mastery. Connect with me or book me to be inspired by developing an executive presence that leads to your own unique formula of success mastery, www.roitalks.com – roi@roitalks.com.

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Rohit Bassi

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Jan 23, 2020

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Jan 16, 2020

I.C.E OF EXECUTIVE PRESENCE


People with a high sense of executive presence are human like you. Failure, self doubt, fear, dedication, discipline, persistence and many more attributes has helped these people realise that the road of success is not a smooth one and it is a never ending journey of learning.

Most people when they see or hear about a successful person they tend to know about what is on the surface. Very few are aware of the struggles, adversities and pains that the individual has gone through.

 

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This is known as the “the iceberg effect.” In simple terms that means to the naked eyes, an iceberg glaringly stands majestically above the water. In fact, approximately 90% of the actual iceberg is under the water. Most of us are unaware of this presence. This executive presence of an iceberg’s strength, might and power can be felt when you cross its path.

Sarah (Gamal) El Gohary is one such example of executive presence. On the outset you will see that she is someone with experience in the development and implementation of a fully integrated brand marketing strategy. But that is just a minor part of her existence; she is actually a versatile seasoned songwriter and performer.

She is extremely talented and has been self-funding her projects. Form 9 to 5 she works in the corporate world but that is temporary; a stepping stone to fulfil her ikigai (a reason to jump out of bed each morning to fulfil a “being” life). The journey for her passion for music has had many quirky incidences and strange stories. She still stands tall and remains focused despite the setbacks she has gone through.

For instance The National Newspaper of Abu Dhabi in an interview with her on July 22, 2017 re,ported on her saying “I have been offered some bizarre deals over the years. I remember in Egypt I met some companies who said I was not allowed to get married in my contract. Another company placed a one million Egyptian pound [Dh205,591] penalty if I didn’t abide by their rules. Another guy told me I had to lose weight first”

August 2018, this amazing, charming and bubbly personality still stands tall and releases her single called Beybosso with the infamous Ahzee (an American DJ and producer from New York). The music video was shot in the lavish backdrop of Dubai. The lyrics of Beybosso sums up the determination that Sarah has.

The feeling of the song reminds me of Kylie Minogue song “I’m spinning around”.  Note the song does not sound like that, it’s just the feeling it gives. Sarah has managed to capture her own executive presence through this song. Her innovative upbeat music and song is poles apart from her 9 to 5 job.

What is so unique about Sarah? How come she stands out? Where does she get all the energy? From my perception one simple word sums it up, she has tapped into her JIGRA. In other words, she has unknowingly been able to be brave heart, have grit or as the business world calls it executive presence.

She has that inner courage/ strength, to be in spirit to pass through the adversities of life with enthusiasm. Such a state makes other perceive her as being without fear, fearless. Her grit allows her to give courage and resolve; the strength of character.

My observation of her and many like her is that they tap into their JIGRA, grit, brave heart or executive presence and somehow accomplish harmonious integration of ICE.

ICE simply means:

  • Intelligence
  • Communication
  • Emotional Wisdom

Let us look at ICE closely. Style, character, substance, levitas, gravitas, and much more are all part of executive presence. And for these to work with effectiveness there needs to be harmonious integration of ICE; each playing its necessary part when required.

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” – Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

Intelligence

Albert Einstein once said, “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination. Be it music, spirituality, developing software, constructing a building or designing a chair or clothes in all of this intelligence certainly assist. All require the ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills. Different types of intelligence are required such as analytic, linguistic, emotional, creativity and innovation, critical thinking in being a success. Technological advancement has transformed the world and all of it requires some kind of intelligence. Without tapping into the different types of intelligence robots, artificial intelligence, and virtual reality would be impossible.

It is a matter of using the whole brain and to gain insight to ones neurological dominance always helps. Knowing yourself is the foundation of developing an executive presence. This allows you to know why you think and behave the way they do, and why other people may think and behave differently. It provides crucial insights on developing your JIGRA in terms of influence, persuasion, communication, listening, emotional wisdom and decision making.

“I know that I am intelligent, because I know that I know nothing” was a saying by Socrates. Philosophers, scientists and neuroscientists till date are looking to measure intelligence. People like Sarah (Gamal) El Gohary display intelligence in their creativity yet require to use their intelligence of critical thinking, problem solving and decision making to be great at her music and her 9 to 5 job.

Communication

When I 18 year old this notion of “You cannot not communicate” was absurd and ridiculous in my map of the world. Until I came across the image of a Japanese person bowing down to greet while in response a Western person extends his/her hand to reciprocate the greetings.

This is a complete mismatch but both individuals are correct in their way of greetings. Their cultures have taught them that this is the best way to greet. So, you can easily see a message has been communicated in such a scenario. Both individuals could easily take offence and can accuse each other of being rude. On the other hand they could realise they need to adjust their greetings thus the communication being a good one.

No matter what you do, you are always communicating. The communication is happening through mediums such as verbal (language, words, sentences), non-verbal (body language, gestures, emotions) and voice (tone, pace, volume).vThe most important critical one is the communication that is happening within you. When a person is unable to communicate with him or her in a productive manner than the outcomes are not pleasant.

For people like Sarah (Gamal) El Gohary to achieve success continuously comes from knowing herself. To do this she has to comprehend her own perception of the world. Her perception impacts and influences her decisions and behaviour.

Emotional Wisdom

Often many people talk about emotional intelligence but let us turn our focus to emotional wisdom. Susan Jeffers has a wonderful way of looking at emotional wisdom. In her book “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway” she refers to this as the Higher Self.

She has been quoted to say, “I have a vision of a light, an energy that we can tune into which can guide us. Our minds, when governed by the Lower Self, aren’t capable of imagining the grand possibilities that are there for us. It is important that we learn to tune into a part of us that has much greater vision, the Higher Self.”

Now some may say this is mumbo jumbo but than the likes of Daniel Goleman say “Emotional wisdom determines our success in life.” Compassion is an extremely high sense of emotional wisdom. This allows one to take themselves and others from disruption to transformation. Without self compassion and compassion for others, we will always see failure as a great disruption to our life.

The likes of Dr. Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela and Guru Nanak Dev Jee had great JIGRA due to their compassion. All there was work was through compassion. As we live in era of where we cannot trust our own “knowing” we are so dependent on science to prove everything. And this where the father of evolution comes in, Charles Darwin. His work on compassion is never spoken about, our schools, business and leaders seem to focus on his work survival of the fittest while Charles Darwin later research work shows he was all about focusing on compassion and not survival of the fittest.

For people like Sarah (Gamal) El Gohary to be on the path of success comes through self-compassion and the compassion for others. People like her are aware compassion is care and warmth either for self or the other person. It is about creating, developing or seeking a solution that takes you or the other out of their misery, problem or fear.

“Stand up, be bold, be strong. Take the whole responsibility on your own shoulders, and know that you are the creator of your own destiny. All the strength and succour you want is within yourself.” – Swami Vivekananda

Yes, material/financial success is great to have. Times are such that many of us are taught to measure success in terms of material/financial success. For many of us driving force in life is material/financial success. Unfortunately, when we fail no one teaches us how to overcome failure, no one educates us that failure is part of success and no one practically demonstrates how to celebrate or failures.

When one is able to harmoniously integrate intelligence, communication and emotional wisdom they heighten their JIGRA, brave heart, grit, or executive presence. Through this, they discover the missing link to success and it has nothing to do with material/financial success.

As a TEDx and Global Professional Speaker with decades of experience, I can help you to focus upon the most important leadership attributes, and inspire you to develop your own unique formula for success mastery. Connect with me or book me to be inspired by developing an executive presence that leads to your own unique formula of success mastery, www.roitalks.com – roi@roitalks.com.

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Rohit Bassi

Founder

Jan 16, 2020

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Jan 9, 2020

KEN TALKS EXECUTIVE PRESENCE


You may have never heard of Ken Eder (an amazing person with outstanding executive presence) and now you have. May I recommend that you take some time to know this individual, in my books it is well worth knowing this persona.

Ken’s name suddenly came rushing back into my memory. My neural pathways somehow or the other reconnected to remind me of him. I have not seen this charming gentleman for years. If memory serves me correct the last time I interacted with him was in May 2003, the year I had to leave Veritas Software.

Why did he enter into my thoughts? Why after so many years did he “boom” appear into my thinking? Why of all places while riding my bicycle (yup, not a motorbike) across the chaotic traffic of Hai Phong, Vietnam, did his name and face appear in front of my eyes?

 

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Why did he enter into my thoughts? Why after so many years did he “boom” appear into my thinking? Why of all places while riding my bicycle (yup, not a motorbike) across the chaotic traffic of Hai Phong, Vietnam, did his name and face appear in front of my eyes?

Simply put because of “Executive Presence”. Yes, that is correct “Executive Presence”. Seniors in my field have been nudging my brain by constantly saying “narrow your focus on your key deliverables”.

That is when it hit me that I have great admiration for Ken. From what I recall of him he was not just a great technical engineer, he had “Executive Presence”. And “Executive Presence” is my key deliverable in the work I do. Unfortunately, there is a myth and a complete lie across the globe that “Executive Presence” is for seniors, executives or leaders. It is a strength that is needed at all levels (cleaner to the CEO). A strength that could allow anyone to advance in their careers, businesses and lives.

“Executive Presence” needs to be at all levels. It not just for leaders or managers and Ken was one of those few people at a young age truly showed “Executive Presence”. There are numerous definitions of “Executive presence”. It is not rocket science, in simple terms it is your leadership (everyone has leadership attributes or some define it as self-leadership) gravitas (a quality that shows natural authority), levitas (a quality that can lighten the mood) and decisiveness (having that higher emotional intelligence to stay calm in tough situations). In other words, when you connect with others do you have it, the X-factor? Are you demanding (domineering/ tyrant with an ego) or commanding (worthy of a respect/ person of integrity)? Are people willing to stop and listen when you speak (not out of fear or the title you hold)?

When I met Ken he was in his early 20s and I was in my mid-20s. Both of us are from different backgrounds, experiences and cultures. From the moment we met there was mutual respect, rapport and trust between both of us. Today, I would easily define him to have an amazing “Executive Presence”.

There are many aspects to “Executive Presence”. For example:

  • Bates Executive Presence Index™says it is a three-dimensional model of character, substance, and style.
  • Andrew Bryant (one of my mentor’s, a thought leader in self-leadership) says it the ability to project confidence and gravitas (substance) under pressure.
  • Sylvia Ann Hewlett as her book title says it all “The missing link between merit and success”

All of them are correct and Ken fits all three of these. In fact of what I know of him, he fits all these sayings of “Executive Presence” for four simple reasons. The shortfall for most of us is that we ignore these crucial four elements and then we wonder were is that missing link to our success.

Ken taught me four simple (but very profound) things about developing “Executive Presence” and he has no clue that he was one of the many teachers for me. The four things he taught me:

  1. Listening – Epictetus was a Greek Stoic philosopher. He was born a slave at Hierapolis, Phrygia and lived in Rome until his banishment, when he went to Nicopolis in northwestern Greece for the rest of his life. Epictetus taught that philosophy is a way of life and not just a theoretical discipline. One of his greatest quotes which is so much relevant in this day and age is “we have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak”. I recall in all our meetings, discussions or disagreements (few of those) Ken would actively and empathetically listen not just with his ears but with his whole body. His poise, body language and eye contact would clearly indicate he was paying and giving attention, listening to the listener. He would only voice his part if and when necessary.
  2. Critical Thinking – Many say that this is all about intellect. Yes, it is about thinking clearly and rationally. And that means to think by integrating both your brain and heart. It is about eliminating the confrontation between what the brain thinks and what the heart feels. Only by integrating the two we arrive at a point where we think with greater clarity and make better decisions. Ken certainly had a natural ability for this. I recall how he interacted with a team member, our line manager or even a client. He would intuitively consider the other parties feelings and at the same time give attention to the reality of the situation. In this manner come to a sound decision which was mutually beneficial for all parties involved.
    Speaking – Aristotle was an ancient Greek philosopher and scientist born in the city of Stagira, Chalkidiki, in the north of Classical Greece. Many considered him to be a great orator of his time. He was known to teach leaders the art of public speaking and would ask his students to look into three things that would make the talk extremely powerful. These being ethos (credibility & trust) pathos (emotions & values) and logos (logic & proof). Well when Ken spoke people listened, and it was out of respect (and he held no position of authority in the company). He had the ability to deliver his message through the simple philosophy of “less is more” and his conversations would have the elements of ethos, pathos and logos.
  3. Higher Emotional Intelligence – People who have worked with me, listen to or read my work know that I do my best to work through compassion. And emotional intelligence is a great supporter of compassion. Many make emotional intelligence unnecessarily complex when it is not. It is all about the ability to identify and manage your own emotions. Especially those low energy emotions of angry, frustration and irritation. From what I know of Ken, he was no alien or superhero like we see in the comic books. He was a superhero of self-compassion and compassion for others. Yes, I had seen him angry during certain interactions, or frustrated when a case was not being resolved or just irritated when the grey British weather was sucking the life out of him. In all scenarios he would transform from the low energy state to a neutral or high state of energy. A trait which very few have in our early 20s.

Trust Ken has evolved in these four simple yet powerful elements of “Executive Presence”.

Going down memory lane some would label Ken as an introvert but he was not at all like that. Unfortunately, many misunderstand such a persona. Introverts are usually categorised into being non-communicative, low on energy and submissive. This is far from the truth. I prefer to say an introvert has a great appreciation for alone time. It gives them the opportunity to recharge, reflect and introspect with their inner being and Ken fits that bill. And yes, he had amazing “Executive Presence” and guess what he was neither a senior, executive or a leader.

The inaccurate label of being shy, distant and being nervous is too far-fetched. Introvert tend to hear “come out of your shell,” and such a statement towards them is very distasteful. And now when I look back into time and recall all the interactions with Ken he had amazing “Executive Presence”.

It does not matter if you labelled yourself as an introvert or an extrovert. Both labels have the ability to ooze “Executive Presence”. Yes, it is required for seniors, executives or leaders but it is a strength that is needed at all levels (from the cleaner to the CEO). A strength that could allow anyone to advance in their careers, businesses and lives.

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Jan 9, 2020

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Jan 2, 2020

THE TASTE OF PIE, PIES & EGO

Some of us have been given the label of an introvert. Unfortunately, many misunderstand such a persona. They are usually categorised into being non-communicative, low on energy and submissive. This is far from the truth. I prefer to say an introvert has a great appreciation for alone time. It gives them the opportunity to recharge, reflect and introspect with their inner being.

The inaccurate label of being shy, distant and being nervous is too far-fetched. They tend to hear “come out of your shell,” and such a statement towards them is very distasteful. And now when they attend a networking event such as the Asia Professional Speakers Convention many find them daunting, awkward and tough to believe they too could be a speaker, facilitator, trainer or coach.

 

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In my lifetime, some of the most amazing speakers, facilitators, trainers or coaches I have met have been given the label introvert. The so-called introvert speaker, facilitator, trainer or coach has a great ability to observe, listen and learn from others.

They tend to sense the PIE, PIES and EGO. All, three teach them something great and with respect, they appreciate all three. Now, what are PIE, PIES and EGO? Here we go:

  • Practical
  • Inspirational
  • Energising

From the PIE person, they learn the importance of engaging, being insightful and being rational in the world we live in. PIE come from the understanding we humans are made of flesh, blood, and pain. So, we will make mistakes and that does not mean that we keep walking the path of our mistakes. Utilising the mind, heart, and soul they learn from their mistakes thus better themselves.

  • Physical
  • Intellectual
  • Emotional
  • Spiritual

PIES is something I learnt from Follow The Shade by Mukul Deva. So, the core of our existence is spiritual and around it is the PIE, that’s the outer, the crust. And when we break through the crust we get to the richness, that being the S.  They come from the perspective of being in harmony through compassion for themselves and others. For them, the act of life is living in the wisdom of the Tao. In other words, you think you are doing but you are being done.

  • Edge
  • Greatness/Good/God
  • Out

EGO is something that I came across through the works of Dr Wayne Dyer and Dr Deepak Chopra. EGO people are amazing. In essence, they have the high energy of possibilities, creativity and vision. At the same time, their own self-inflated ego for recognition, instant gratification and being in the limelight kills it for them. They focus on labels, masks and judgments rather than being the authentic person they are.

Both an introvert and extrovert could be PIE, PIES or EGO. Learning comes in many forms and shapes. And when I look back at the Asia Professional Speakers Convention I see many shades. Neither good or bad, just many of us doing our best to either improve our business, speaking style or know the industry better.

The greatest learning for me was “Mastery in Servitude” is something we as speakers, facilitators, trainers or coaches need to thrive for.

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Jan 2, 2020

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Dec 26, 2019

SUCCESS FROM THE INSIDE OUT


“Simplicity, Simplicity, and simplicity is the key to Success” – Dr. S.K. Ramesh.

Thousands of years ago, and even to date the principles of success are the same. Everyone has their unique formula for creating and developing his or her success. To really comprehend success one has to experience the pain of failure. It is these painful failures that assist us in expanding our comfort zone.

Request yourself to look back into your past. When looking into it I would like you to thank for all that has happened, even if you consider the experiences to be painful or joyful. Now some of you may be thinking why to be thankful for a painful experience. Well in simple terms that is learning. Yes, it could have been emotionally painful or even expensive learning.

 

 

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Despite the numerous uncertainties in your life you honestly and constantly are in learning mode. Rather than viewing them as obstacles, our thoughts and feelings need to learn to see them as situations, which assist in our growth and development.

That is it as a good idea to evaluate what has happened so that you can plan, strategise and act better. The best way to do this is by reviewing what worked and what could be done better. Many a time we avoid evaluating our performance as there is a fear of admitting our errors to ourselves or we compare ourselves to the success of others. That is why I love the quote “Comparison is the death of joy” by Mark Twain.

The purpose of our existence is not about competing with each other, but to collaborate to create, innovate and evolve us for the better. Thus this running away from mistakes or comparing becomes a self-sabotaging madness that moves us away from our true success.

One of the things that I talk about during my workshops and write about it my blog is the “ABC” and “AUC” Principle of Success. This means to evaluate your life in terms of what enhances your life and what inhibits it. In other words, think about “Areas Beyond (your) Control” and “Areas Under (your) Control”. You will be surprised what you can learn from such a simple exercise.

This leads to the simple but profound concept of having a purpose-driven life. Are you truly aware of your purpose in life? What allows you to wake up in the morning and makes you feel alive? What is important to you that you would love to do in your life? Look at yourself from the inside out.

All these are important questions yet are ignored by us; we are too engrossed in the rat race. In a world of instant self-gratification, it has become more and more important to return back to our heart rather than count success in terms of the latest gadgets we possess, likes on social media or materialist wealth. In the words of Richard M. DeVos “Money cannot buy peace of mind. It cannot heal ruptured relationships, or build meaning into a life that has none.”

So, when you sit down to evaluate yourself, think in terms of relationships, career, family, contribution to society, finance, hobbies, health, friends, celebrations and much more. Avoid measuring only in terms of financial gains or loss, a trap we all fall into with great ease. In other words look into your whole life grid.

A while back I got a message saying:

Our life often revolves around health, money, relationships, and reputation. Instead, if life revolves around commitment, wisdom, service, and celebrations, then we automatically receive health, money, reputation, and relationships improve.”

So, where do you need to focus on? Even though all of us will depart one day it is crucial in the time we live to maintain a continuous stream of awareness, attention and focus throughout all aspects of our life. Success or failure, always remember to focus on compassion, love, and joy.

Bruce Lee had a great philosophy both in terms of martial arts and managing life. Its emphasis was on practicality, flexibility, speed, and efficiency. From now until the end of your human existence learn from your past, present and do your best to succeed in whatever you wish to.

Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

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Rohit Bassi

Founder

Dec 26, 2019

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