Jan 17, 2022
"You have plenty of courage, I am sure. All you need is clarity, conviction and compassion in yourself. There is no living thing that is not afraid when it faces fear. True courage is in facing fear when you are afraid, and that kind of courage you have in plenty."
– Adapted from The Wizard of Oz
Dr Strange, Harry Potter, Gandalf, Dungeon And Dragons are extremely popular for magic, miracles and mysticism. Then there are the powerful magician's Merlin, Morgana, Glinda and Rand al’Thor. The term magician includes wizards (witches), sorcerers, and warlocks.
The Warlock strikes or grants a deal with the dark side thus sucks and drains the power from others to carry magical acts. They usually carry out selfish acts; in other words, they focus on serving themselves.
The Sorcerer has innate magical powers, it is in their bloodline. Unlike a wizard, a sorcerer does not need to spend much time focusing on research and study, though they may have had training to better understand their own abilities. Sorcerers usually work by using just their instinct.
The Wizard learns from bitter experience to develop the powers. The wizard is a being without innate magical powers who becomes a magician through ardent diligent learning and practice. Wizards usually want to understand magic as clearly as possible. They spend a lot of time thoroughly searching, seeking and discovering in order to learn spells. They experiment, carry out trial and errors to create new spells. They gain an understanding of magic through insightful and in-depth research. It is only through careful practice and study that they learn to perform their spells.
Everyone has to communicate, even magicians. Communication truly is magical, miraculous and mystical.
When it comes to communication, The Communication Wizard knows the foundation, building block, essence of all that we do is based on wholesome communication. The Communication Wizard is aware we are always communicating. Even, our act of silence is a form of communication. “You cannot not communicate” is absurd and ridiculous in the map of the world for most people.
Picture this, a Japanese person bowing down to greet while in response a Western person extends his/ her hand to reciprocate the greetings. This is a complete mismatch but both individuals are correct in their way of greetings. Their cultures have taught them that this is the best way to greet them.
So, you can easily see a message has been communicated in such a scenario. Both individuals could easily take offence and can accuse each other of being rude. On the other hand, they could realise they need to adjust their greetings thus the communication being a good one. No matter what you do, you are always communicating. Communication is happening through mediums such as verbal (language, words, sentences), non-verbal (body language, gestures, emotions) and voice (tone, pace, volume).
Indeed writing is another element but the most important critical one is the communication that is happening within your mind. When a person is unable to communicate with himself or herself in a wholesome manner then the outcome will be unpleasant. Your ability to communicate with yourself is crucial and only then does it get easier to communicate with others. It is what is known as rapport. Rapport is all about creating the essence of trust, respect, understanding and cooperation, which all begins within you. It involves the use of all of your senses.
For you to achieve success (but more importantly happiness and fulfilment) continuously comes from knowing yourself. To do this you have to comprehend your own perception of the world. Your perception impacts and influences your decisions and behaviour. A classic error that most of us make is blaming others but this leads to sabotaging our own success. This simply means to know how to communicate better with yourself thus achieving better outcomes for yourself. You need to realise every action you take, word or sentence you say is firstly dictated by the internal communication happening in your mind. This is where the true battle is and not out there.
Your external communication reflects your internal communication. It is seen through your body language, heard through your voice and through the words you use. Most people think it is about the outside appearance but what is happening internally matters more. Indeed, first impression matters but when there is no substance to you then that first impression is useless.
In a world where most of us measure success through material wealth and fame, we forget the foundations with great ease. Our focus is on earning money by hook or crook and in this journey, we forget to communicate with ourselves in a wholesome manner.
There is an immense pull at worrying about what others think rather than what you think for yourself. People die with all kinds of regrets and the number one regret for people on their deathbed is “I wish I’d cared less about what other people think.” In order to move away from such regret, start the internal communication of compassion, kindness and care for yourself.
“Nothing can survive without food. Everything we consume acts either to heal us or to poison us. We tend to think of nourishment only as what we take in through our mouths, but what we consume with our eyes, our ears, our noses, our tongues, and our bodies is also food. The conversations going on around us, and those we participate in, are also food. Are we consuming and creating the kind of food that is healthy for us and helps us grow? When we say something that nourishes us and uplifts the people around us, we are feeding love and compassion. When we speak and act in a way that causes tension and anger, we are nourishing violence and suffering.”
― Thích Nhất Hạnh, The Art of Communicating
The Communication Wizard reminds himself/herself of being wholesome in his/her ways, thoughts, feelings, and actions. We all have to develop how to remove the weeds of unwholesome ways, thoughts, feelings, and actions. They bring wreak havoc, negativity, pessimism, criticism, limiting beliefs, doubt, fear, exploitation, violence or abuse into one’s and other lives.
The Communication Wizard is like a great gardener who knows weeds grow uninvited, they thrive even without care and no matter what time of the year they will grow. Such is the nature of unwholesome ways, thoughts, feelings, and actions. Like a gardener, The Communication Wizard learns to remove these weeds. With kindness and care, he/she waters and nurtures the wholesome ways, thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Knowing when your mind is either a friend or a foe is an ongoing journey. Thus, discovering and steering it towards being our greatest friend. In this manner, making our mindful to kindle courage, clarity, conviction and compassion in any situation thus being an artful wholesome The Communication Wizard.