Ho'oponopono To Heal Relationships & Resolve Conflicts

Ho'oponopono is a traditional Hawaiian practice that is used to heal relationships and resolve conflicts. It is based on the knowing (not belief) that individuals are responsible for the well-being of their relationships & that by taking responsibility for their own thoughts, emotions, & actions, individuals can #heal #relationships & resolve conflicts.

A study published in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy in 2008 found that #hooponopono was effective in reducing #conflict and increasing positive communication in couples. The Journal of Clinical Psychology reported in 2010 that Ho'oponopono was effective in reducing symptoms of depression & anxiety in individuals.

It is based on the knowing that all negative experiences are a result of past thoughts, emotions, and actions that are stored in the subconscious mind. By releasing these negative thoughts and emotions, one can create a more positive reality for themselves and others.

It is a cleaning, healing and transmuting process. This involves going within oneself and identifying and releasing any negative thoughts, emotions, or memories that may be blocking the flow of love within thus healing the relationship.

The #goal is to return to a state of "zero" or "clean slate" where one is free from past experiences and negative thoughts that may be influencing their current feelings, actions & perceptions. In this state, one is able to let go of deep-rooted traumas, negative beliefs, & limiting patterns, & reconnect with their true self.

Unfortunately and it is very sad to say that most people are under the impression that Ho'oponopono is the "Four Agreements" or four phrases. Ho’oponopono is of is not a religion, but a psycho-spiritual problem-solving technique (with numerous tools). It is initiated by your free choice to do Ho’oponopono. Its origins are ancient, yet so modern and practical.

Please note one of the tools used in Ho'oponopono is the "Four Agreements" or four phrases:

1. I am sorry: This means I have no idea what it is in me that has brought this into my life. I am sorry about this problem which is negatively impacting my thoughts, emotions, actions, behaviour, relationships, environment & living.

2. Please forgive me: This means I am unconscious, unaware of how this problem has come into my life which in turn is negatively impacting my thoughts, emotions, actions, behaviour, relationships, environment & living. So, please forgive me for not realising the existence of this in me.

3. Thank you: This means thank you for giving me another opportunity for helping resolve this problem in me which is negatively impacting my thoughts, emotions, actions, behaviour, relationships, environment & living. I have no interest in carrying out paralyses by analysis & I thank you for cleaning, healing and transmuting this once again.

4. I #love you: This means when you experience #problems, say to them mentally or silently: “I love you dear memories. I am grateful for the opportunity to free all of you and me.”

Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona: “If we can accept that we are the sum total of all past thoughts, #emotions, words, deeds and actions and that our present lives and choices are coloured or shaded by this memory bank of the past, then we begin to see how a process of correcting or setting aright can change our lives, our families & our society.”